We have been communicating with our hands for a lot longer than we have been communicating with language. Therefore the hands will always win over speech.
The hands are wonderful communication tools. Try to ensure that you use them to help convey the message – and not your nerves. The human and not the ape, if you like.
Hand gesturing is a bit like fish – they can go off quickly. Once you have made a point with your hands, finish the gesture. Occasionally drop your hands to your sides to bring a “full stop” to the point made.
1. The hands and the mouth
The amount of tension in the hands is reflected in the tongue and the jaw. Tension in the jaw and tongue has the potential to harden your voice and make you swallow your words.
SOLUTION: KEEP THE PALMS SOFT. AVOID MAKING FISTS, OR HOLDING A PEN OR SIMILAR OBJECT TOO TIGHTLY.
2. The hands and the shoulder blades
If the shoulder blades rise there is a change in the perception of the weight of the hands, which causes you to be more aware of the hands - so you fiddle with or hide the hands.
SOLUTION: KEEP THE SHOULDER BLADES DROPPED.
If you and your body are relaxed, the hands hang at your hip joints. Folding the arms, holding the hands in front of the groin, or behind your back are all acquired habits which can be dropped without too much effort. These habits not only create negative body messaging, but they all impede the breath flow; vital to good communication. Like any habit, simply decide not to do it any more. The gain of better communication skills will swiftly negate the brief pain of feeling exposed.